tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274863436171313162.post2499885676542893042..comments2024-02-05T18:59:44.678-05:00Comments on The Borg Blog: The right to funk...BorgBloggerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03373177980133792571noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274863436171313162.post-63461677990078475482012-06-28T11:56:46.453-04:002012-06-28T11:56:46.453-04:00I'm sorry to hear you had that experience. It...I'm sorry to hear you had that experience. It is tough when someone takes advantage of our generosity when we offered it sincerely to help them through a rough time. <br /><br />It is a tough balancing act to have compassion for someone in a difficult situation and yet retain appropriate boundaries in our relationships with them. It sounds like your cousin may still be in a rough spot and she's making the decisions for herself that seem easiest in the short-term, even if they may not be the best choices for her in the long-term. <br /><br />I don't know how recent this experience is, and it sounds like you are already burned out from the situation. However, it does sound like she is taking a good step to get a job perhaps to establish her own independence from her well-to-do boyfriend. If you can find a way that doesn't overly burden you, try and encourage her in this step. This doesn't mean you take on day care (er, night care) for her, but, at least acknowledge that it's a step forward that she's working rather than simply trying to process what is happening in her relationship through expensive shopping therapy. <br /><br />Big hugs!BorgBloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03373177980133792571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274863436171313162.post-42719432995131896552012-06-28T11:48:10.932-04:002012-06-28T11:48:10.932-04:00Every once in awhile, you can hear me say, "P...Every once in awhile, you can hear me say, "Pity party of one? Your table is ready." Usually the table is serenaded by the smallest violin playing.BorgBloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03373177980133792571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274863436171313162.post-77892154136172862232012-06-24T12:45:17.050-04:002012-06-24T12:45:17.050-04:00I hear you. My cousin and I are very close and the...I hear you. My cousin and I are very close and then she found out that her bf cheated on her. My husband and I spent the weekened with her, cleaning her house, taking care of her son. We offered to let her move in with us if she needed a place to stay and I offered to babysit so she could get a job now that she would have to support herself.<br /><br />She decided not to leave her bf who makes twice as much as my husband by the way. Was dropping her kid off every week a few times a week so she could go shop her troubles away and then to top it off got a job and was pissed off when I refused to babysit for her. (Her hours by the way were from 2pm to closing - or around midnight)<br /><br />I have three kids under the age of four! I told her no and she was pissed off because I said I would watch her son (she neglects to recall my offer stood so long as she NEEDED a job to survive) She doesn't call here very often anymore and needless to say I avoid her calls as much as possible.<br /><br />I think you can overdraw at the friendship bank! She sure did and she's family!carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15952158423824382303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7274863436171313162.post-67494798250915269552012-06-24T11:01:57.314-04:002012-06-24T11:01:57.314-04:00I totally agree we have a right to funk. I call it...I totally agree we have a right to funk. I call it pity parties - we all have them and I think in fact we all need them now and again. As long as it doesn't become our constant state of being then the down times are working as they should. I think. Lolpammustardhttp://www.noisefortheunderdog.comnoreply@blogger.com