Eleven months ago, almost to the day (it was the day AFTER Christmas, rather than the day before), my best friend decided and announced to me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. A misguided Christmas present, apparently, can do that to a relationship, although the story is a little bit more complicated than that.
We've talked three times since then: we had a brief quarter where she actually tried to call me once a month. I'm not quite sure what I might have done to have ended those, other than miss her call that last time she tried. That was June.
She's been working for quite some time on her next athletic achievement - try-outs for a local sports team. Something that has been very important to her for awhile now, and taken significant importance after an unfortunate injury took away her ability to do her favorite sport as well as she used to. In her life, this is a significant event. Try-outs happen on a grand scale once a year - in November, but in the spring, sometimes, if there are a few openings, they will also have try-outs to fill a few spots.
It was in our talk in March or April when the last try-outs happened, and I asked her, even if she communicated nothing else to me ever again, to let me know if she made it. She promised me, then, that she would make sure I would know when it happened. And we had talked after those try-outs where she confirmed she hadn't.
So try-outs happened again. And I knew they were vaguely taking place about now, so I sent her a "good luck" text nearly three weeks ago.
Ten days ago she found out she got on.
Today, I found out. And not from her.
I want to share her good news - I want to shout to people, "Hey, my best friend..." and it is then that I realize given that she didn't share this great news in her life (equivalent, people, for her to having a baby - that kinda exciting big life event) with me, I probably should stop thinking about and referring to her as my best friend. I am no longer one of the people she shares these things with. Her 342 and growing Facebook friends and strangers, yes. Me, no.
When we had those three brief phone conversations, she also promised me we'd be friends again someday. Given that she didn't keep the promise of telling me when she made the team, I guess I shouldn't be holding my breath....
Applications are now being accepted...